Thursday, December 30, 2010

Cell Phone Etiquette Is Not An Oxymoron

HTC EVO 4G with Google (Sprint)During 2010, I owned three different cell phones. I have never been one to chase the latest greatest toys, but clearly 2010 was a terrific year for the mobile communications industry. We welcomed the first 4G phone among other major technological breakthroughs. Cell phones today are targeted toward a broad range of diverse populations, ranging from the aged to the poor. More recently, we have begun also targeting babies for cell phone use, even though they are far too young to form actual words. While too young to form verbal language, they are old enough to mimic cell phone behavior.
 

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Given society's preoccupation with cell phones, it has become even more important to teach our children/youth appropriate cell phone etiquette. Cell phone etiquette is not an oxymoron! During the holidays I had the opportunity to travel from the Midwest to south Florida. During my hours waiting in the airport I decided to consciously observe cell phone behavior. I decided to observe phone behaviors as a result of becoming increasingly annoyed by a loud woman who was oblivious and completely unaware her cell phone use was impacting those around her.  Interestingly, several of the individuals I observed using their cell phones in the airport were traveling with others whom they rarely engaged. These cell phone users appeared more content calling others rather than engaging those with whom they were actually traveling. I identified several characteristics in those I observed, which included the following:

1) The majority of cell phone offenders were female (bummer);
2) lack of awareness of their speaking volume and conversational tone;
3) lack of awareness of the inappropriate nature of their conversations (topics were too personal and unsuitable for public consumption);
4) lack of awareness (or concern) for how their conversations impacted those around them;
5) inability or lack of desire to engage the other individual(s) with whom they were traveling;

I do not believe these individuals behaved poorly while using their cell phone for the sake of annoying others, instead I believe they behaved badly because they were simply unaware of their cell phone behavior. The next time you use your cell phone in public or at home, I ask that you use it consciously. Be present in your physical surroundings; be aware of how your cell phone use may be impacted those around you. Be mindful that children/youth may be watching you and will mimic your behavior, it's how children learn behavior. 

While we may never challenge a person we don't know in public who may be annoying us as a result of their cell phone conversations, we CAN monitor and change our own behavior.




Sunday, December 5, 2010

There's Nothing On TV...


Samsung - UN46C6300 - 46" LED-backlit LCD <em>TV</em> - 1080p (FullHD)How many times have you or someone in your household uttered the words, "there's nothing on TV"? What does this mean exactly? Most American households today have digital TV (so called free TV), cable TV, internet TV, and/or a myriad of other forms of entertainment delivered through our TVs.

I think when we say there's nothing on TV what we are really saying is I need someone (not in the real world)  to entertain and engage me. Some of my friends joke about being in the same house with their spouse/children, but seeing each other rarely because they are living in different areas or zones of the house watching their own individual TVs. These families only see each other when they are passing through a zone of the house on the way to the kitchen to get food only to be taken back to their individual living zones. Some of these families send text messages from room-to-room, and individual-to-individual, while never actually uttering a verbal word. This behavior may occur all weekend in some families and is considered normal.

I really, really enjoy technology, but this familial misuse of technology can't help but have lasting negative affects on the family unit and our society as we know it. As I write this blog I can't help but think about how people may have reacted to the invention of the telephone, and other technological advances that improved familial communication across distances. The invention and mass production of the early telephone helped bridge the gap and bring together family/friends separated by distance. In today's family it may be the technology that is creating the distance within the family household.

Our consumer-driven 24/7, 365, high-paced, high energy, always accessible, never say no, make as much money as you can, work as many hours as you can, secure more toys (cars, houses, spouses, jobs, etc.) than your neighbors, don't know your neighbors culture has us forgetting what is truly important, deep, meaningful relationships with our families and friends.

There are few regrets in life that don't include wishing we had taken more time to talk with our loved ones, or having built wonderful experiences to recall later in life. Many of us are guilty of vegging-out on the couch on a Saturday afternoon, but let's remember the next time we say "there's nothing on TV" that there are others who would love to spend time in real life engaging and entertaining us, so let's talk and really get to know each other.

Tuesday, November 16, 2010

Reinvent Yourself and Pursue Your Passion

I have been a social worker for nearly 23 years. The beauty of social work is its versatility and the ability to reinvent ourselves as social workers. Not many professions offer the opportunity to change what we do as our life goals change. I am at a very special time in my life based on my professional experiences, that time in life when many people begin thinking about what their second act might be. This time in my own life has afforded me the opportunity to engage many other social workers at a crossroads.

I have uncovered a new passion, something I am pretty good at, helping social workers explore their own thoughts and fears, and how to help them uncover their own hidden talents and suppressed gifts. What I enjoy most about my work is helping social workers reinvent themselves based on embracing their special talents and gifts, whatever they might be. I feel energized each time a social worker I have worked with decides to pursue an area they long suppressed for fear of failure.

The best part of this for me is that I am still doing social work and my personal gift has allowed me to reinvent myself and pursue what gives me passion. As social workers, it is our job to help others uncover their hidden potential; however, we seldom take the time to explore our own passion and what may make us happy and fulfilled beyond our roles as social workers.

If you are approaching a crossroads in your life, wondering what your second act might be, take the time to reinvent yourself and pursue your passion. You might be surprised to find your special gift may allow you to pursue your passion while making a living doing it.

Tuesday, November 9, 2010

Cyberbullying Can Happen to Anyone, Even a Social Worker?

Cyberbullying can happen to anyone. I began my teaching career as an adjunct instructor seven years ago at a college in my community. I absolutely love teaching and take great pride in seeing students achieve academic success, especially when they may not have known they were capable. While I enjoy teaching immensely, my students know that I will push them to do their very best; I require regular attendance and class participation.



I became aware of a website called "ratemyprofessor.com", a few graduate students actually told me about it. Nearly a year ago, I became the victim of cyberbullying at the hands of a student. Prior to my cyberbully experience I would visit this website to monitor student feedback once or twice a semester, I rather enjoyed the comments as they were pretty positive. I never thought I would become a cyberbully victim.

 The comments my cyberbully posted were relentless, blatantly untrue and extremely hurtful. Yes, even though the comments my bully posted were untrue, I couldn't help but wonder if the students reading these comments would believe them to be true. I found myself becoming increasingly embarrassed and almost consumed by the thought of my colleagues reading these statements. My cyberbully posted over 20 comments in just a few months; he poorly attempted masking his writing style. His writing skills and comprehension were very poor, and I actually felt badly for him. I love technology, and couldn't believe my reputation was being "slammed" in such a public arena as the result of a disgruntled student. 

As the semester progressed my visits to the website had become daily fearing what the student would say next. I eventually decided it wasn't mentally healthy for me to hide in the shadows and fear my student cyberbully. Afterall, I am a social worker! I had been victimized in cyberspace, but refused to be bullied in the real world; his behavior in the classroom became more bizarre and his mental health questionable. He was not passing the course (he would fall asleep in class and was often inappropriate during class discussions) and it was important to me not to change the way I engaged him. I challenged his inappropriate behavior in class when warranted and gave him the grades he earned on assignments regardless of how his posts escalated.

After the semester, I contacted ratemyprofessor.com the old fashioned way, I mailed a letter to their Office of General Counsel. I provided them the name of the student and asked that all posts from his IP be removed. Surprisingly, approximately 1 week after sending my letter all of the negative comments posted by my cyberbully had been removed; shortly thereafter I received a letter from the website's legal department informing me of the outcome.

I am pleased this personal case of cyberbullying ended as it did, my professional self esteem was restored along with my teaching reputation. I take comfort in knowing my cyberbully was confronted by the website and that as an educator and social worker I remained true to my professional values and ethics. It is not always possible to directly confront a cyberbully and cyberbullying can occur among children and adults.

As a result of this experience I learned that cyberbullying can happen to anyone, even a social worker.

Wednesday, November 3, 2010

Living In The Matrix

By day I am a social worker, but by night I become a self proclaimed tech hound. Recently, I have begun learning more about internet addictions and how careful those of us who love technology must be as not to become engulfed by the very thing that brings us recreational and professional development, technology. The over use of technology can be addictive. One can spend hours, and hours surfing websites, learning about the latest tech gadgets, communicating with others in cyberspace, and losing touch with reality.

Living in the Matrix is about losing sight of reality (what is really important) given over stimulation from all things tech. I have found the more efficient we become as a result of our use/reliance on technology, the more activities we attempt to squeeze into our day. As a social worker, I recognize the importance of unplugging and taking a step back when beginning to experience over stimulation from technology. However, some of us aren't as aware and the use of technology can be seductive and even destructive.

For some individuals with addictive behavioral/personality traits technology can be increasingly problematic.
Emerging research argues that technology can be as addictive as drugs/narcotics and/or alcohol. Some individuals with regular over exposure to technology can even experience physical symptoms when attempting to curb technology use.  I ask that as you enjoy our wonderful world of technology (Facebook, Twitter, Second Life, Farmville, etc.), that you engage responsibly. If you feel compelled to engage in tech-based activities, and find yourself feeling euphoric once you engage, you may be developing pre-addictive behavioral characteristics. If this is the case, identify someone with whom you trust to talk about it, or seek the assistance of a professional. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F_xdt8agVrs&sns=em

Technology has enhanced our lives for the better, but let's engage with a level of emotional awareness. There is no substitute for engagement outside the matrix.

Sunday, October 31, 2010

My iPhone Story: From Exhaustion to Powerpoint Presentations

I became an iPhone 4 user summer 2010, but it wasn't an easy road. As the story went for hundreds of others the day the phone was released I arrived at my neighborhood mall at 5:45am. I didn't advance order, but naively thought I might stand in line for an hour or two and emerge with one one the hottest items since sliced bread. I was surprised that I actually waited in line nearly 6 hours with hundreds of others crazed tekkies and left empty handed.

After standing on me feet for hours and hours, inching closer to what I thought was the "phone-of-all-phones", an employee emerged from the store (that was not even within eyesight of those of us standing in line doubled over from exhaustion) to tell me and the hundreds of others our quest was not to be. Our names and email addresses were collected by employees and crudely written on paper atop a clip board, the old fashioned way.

I was in shock and confused. Me and my fellow line waiters asked each other how could Apple not order enough iPhone 4s? Why would Apple people write down our names on paper and not use fancy computers? Did they not care about us, after all they had provided each of us free water and treats to keep us from fainting in line? After quickly gathering myself through positive self talk I decided to abandon my quest for the iPhone 4 this day and live to search another day.

Three weeks later (at a reasonable time) I returned to the scene of my earlier unpleasant iPhone 4 experience, waited in line 1/2 hour and emerged victorious with the iPhone 4. I must say memories of my unpleasant phone experience have been replaced with wonderful adventures and new knowledge gained as a result of my new phone. My life has been made much easier as I do almost everything on my phone I once did on my computer. Just recently I discovered the ability to conduct PowerPoint presentations on my phone using a small projection unit. I no longer need to carry my laptop and a projection unit.

Below is a screen shot of some of the apps I use, no I am not fascinated with guns. The gun  app is to demonstrate how diverse the range of apps is. Notice the counseling app, this is a GREAT resource! All I do is enter a zip code or city and all counselors, social workers, therapists, etc. within an area code is populated. I can also access the websites of these social workers and others through a simple touch of the icon. The iCE app is for continuing education options for social work licensure.

The iPhone 4 is a wonderful device, I paid $200 for it and it has been well worth it!

Tuesday, October 26, 2010

Tech toys, gotta love 'em !

I love all things tech and would like to share with you some of my favorite tech toys in hopes these tools will make your lives much easier. The first tool I would like to share with you is called the Echopen from Livescribe. At work I chair several committees and find myself trying to facilitate these meetings while taking notes and capturing the essence of what is being said. This can be a major challenge, not to mention very tedious when later typing my notes and then distributing the notes to committee members as an email attachment.

The Echopen has made my life so much easier, because it allows me to take hand written notes while also capturing audio of what is being said. After taking notes I dock my Echopen to my laptop or desktop and upload my notes and the audio. I absolutely love the Echo! The Echopen also has an app that is purchased separately and can transfer handwritten notes directly to text! I am not a quick typist so this app would be a terrific time saver for me. I have the 4 GB Echopen which has more than enough storage space for me, the cost was around $160 at Bestbuy. Take a look at the YouTube video below.

The New Echo smartpen from Livescribe

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Introducing the New Echo smartpen from Livescribe. Find what you need with a tap.
www.youtube.com/watch?v=-Kh4Tpc9jfk


I'd also like to tell you about Dragon software, Dragon is a speech to text software that again cuts down on time for me as I am not a fast typist. Dragon for desktop/laptop requires me to speak using a headset and what I say automatically appears of my computer screen as text. Love it! I recently downloaded Dragon Dictation to my iPhone 4 and I can just speak and Dragon creates text messages, emails, and posts to facebook and twitter.
  1. Dictate - Mac
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  2. Dragon Dictation for iPhone, iPod touch, and iPad on the iTunes ...Learn more, read reviews, and download Dragon Dictation by Nuance Communications on the iTunes App Store.itunes.apple.com/us/app/dragon-dictation/id341446764?mt... 


As a college administrator I am always exploring ways to engage students in the classroom, online, and through campus life. Last year I purchased a Flip Slide HD camera and have used it to help enhance the college experience for our students. Rather than sending boring text emails, I encourage our staff to create video messages to communicate information to students via cell phones and emails. I paid $249 for my HD Flip on Amazon.com. Don't get me wrong, I'm not all work and no play. I have taken my Flip on many vacations, used it to shoot a family wedding and the graduation ceremony of my niece.

http://www.theflip.com/en-us/

SlideHD captures up to 4 hours of HD video and features a 3" widescreen for instant watching, allowing you to take your favorite videos with you anywhere you go. Pre-loaded FlipShare™ software makes it easy to organize, edit and share your videos. 
SlideHD 16GB | 4 hr


The final tech toy I will share with you in this blog is the PanDigital scanner. If you have need of a scanner to record and store important documents, old pictures, and almost anything else, the PanDigital scanner may be just the tech toy for you. It's compact and does a good job scanning docs. The scanner can be purchased on Amazon, HSN.com, and other electronics retailers.

Pandigital Photolink One-Touch PANSCN06 8.5-Inch x11-Inch Photo Scanner

Hope you enjoy these tech toys as much as I do!

Pandigital Photolink One-Touch PANSCN06 8.5-Inch x11-Inch Photo Scanner

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Sunday, October 24, 2010

There's Room for Everyone At The Table

You may be wondering about the title of this blog. The title, "There's room for everyone at the table" symbolizes for me the importance of this year's current political season and the potential influence of social workers who may be running for political offices across the United States. Democratic, Republican, and Independent social workers have an opportunity unlike any time in our history to truly impact the lives of others in a positive and substantive way on the local, state and federal levels. I ask that as we prepare to vote that we allow ourselves to hear all views with an open mind and heart.

While I am well aware most social workers closely identify with the ideals, values, and beliefs of the Democratic party (as I do generally), it is important that we allow ourselves to be open to hearing the individual views of others, especially when we do not necessarily agree.

In my state, we have a seasoned social worker who a registered Republican running for one of our highest offices. I must say I was a bit disappointed with the response I received when I shared this fact with some members of my social work network. When sharing this (proud moment) I was met with unanticipated grumblings simply because the social worker is a Republican. My moment of excitement was replaced with thoughts of the highly critical George Will article of a few years ago. I became embarrassed by some of their reactions. While I am a registered Democrat and generally subscribe to the principles of the Democratic party, I can still see triumph in the political success of a Republican social worker.

Social workers regardless of political affiliation, first and foremost care about the human condition and being a voice for those who may not have a voice regardless of political affiliation. I think there's room for everyone at the table.

Saturday, October 23, 2010

I Won't Apologize!

I thought long and hard about what my second blog should be, you see as a social worker, I learned in my BSW education and later my MSW education the importance of a positive attitude in affecting sustainable change. I titled this blog "I Won't Apologize", because in this blog I am going to tell you, my reader (maybe readers) what I really think about the status of the social work profession relative to salaries and our passive attitude about social work salaries.

Generally, when I find myself talking with social workers about salaries within the human services, I often hear the same ridiculous statement that I believe has become a learned behavioral response among many social workers. The statement goes a bit like this, "I didn't become a social worker to get rich, I became a social worker to help change the world for the better". I too became a social worker to help make the world a better place, but I also completed my social work degrees to secure a good job and make a comfortable living. As social workers, we often send mixed messages about our salaries to potential employers and also to potential social workers. On the one hand we communicate a self-sacrificial, altruistic attitude and even say things like, "I didn't become a social worker to get rich", while on the other hand complain about the lack of competitive salaries within the field.

I am a proud social worker and love what social work has afforded me: a chance to make a real difference in the lives of others, a secure job, a nice home and car and fantastic vacations. I won't apologize for having done well financially in social work and I wish that social workers (those that this statement applies) would stop complaining and start advocating the way we advocate for our clients. What is it about social workers who believe to be a good social worker one must take an oath of poverty or not care so much about one's salary? Social workers are incredibly dedicated people who genuinely care for others. If we do not feel worthy of commanding/demanding competitive salaries for the work we do, them shame on us!

Thursday, October 21, 2010

Social Workers & Technology

I decided to create this blog as an outlet to share my love of social work and technology. I am a social worker employed in a college setting, I also own my own employment agency that focuses on placing social workers in contractual and non-contractual temp, temp-to-perm, and permanent employment opportunities. I have been in the field of non-traditional social work since 1987 and have within the last five years become very interested in the use of technology in direct practice and education. Through this blog I hope to share stories of my professional experiences in the field, and a bit about technology and the "tech toys" I have found particularly useful in my practice.

While I believe technology has greatly enhanced our lives for the better, I would be derelict if I failed to discuss issues associated with the misuse of technology, such as cyber-bullying and internet related addictions. See video link below for information on internet addiction.
www.youtube.com/watch?v=vMhTtjAzgOA